Nightlife Culture Review: Flute Grammercy

Flute is a solid component to New York cocktail culture.

One of the best parts of the venue is the way they seat people. This might sound stupid, but it makes a difference. The host sits all the large groups and singles upstairs in the main room and gather all the couples down in the basement. This saves the party crowd from having to suffer through PDA that doesn't include them and lets the couples fawn over each other in peace. I wish more places did that.

The cocktails are quite good as well. Like many cocktail lounges now, Flute focuses on a specific liquor in most of their drinks. In this case champange is the common theme. We tried a few drinks and each one was quite good. The service is good. The dim room and comfortable furniture are good for enjoying crafted cocktails. The music is a random hot mess of an iPod shuffle, but no one is perfect.

If you like cocktails you will like Flute, whether you are in a group or a couple.

Have fun.

21 Essential Websites for New York Nightlife Culture


There are so many blogs and websites for New York nightlife that if you tried to read them all you’d never have time to go out. This list collects some of the best and most up to date writing online. This isn’t a list of sites about the industry side, venue reviews or a list of purely self promotional sites. There are plenty of good ones in both those categories, but this list focuses on the sites with a cultural focus. Some of them will be familiar, others will be new. I hope all of them will help learn more about New York nightlife culture go out and have fun.


Music/ DJing

Ear Drum NYC


New Music Daily

Village Voice Music 


Nightlife Tastemakers

Elite Daily

Good Night Mr. Lewis

Guest of a Guest

NY Nightlife: @NYNightlife (on Twitter)  

Societe Perrier


Bartending/ Drinking

New York Barfly

Shake and Strain

The Truth about Bartending


Restaurants/ Eating

Eater New York

Grub Street New York

Zagat New York


Fashion/ Style/ Photography

The Dandy Project

I Rock the Shot

Paper Magazine

Young, Rich and Faking It  






The Beer Friends


Nightlife changes over time, so this list will change with it. If you think I left someone out that needs to be here, or you think someone is here who shouldn’t be, let me know.

Have fun.


On the Make: Nightlife as a Lifeless Sham

By Gamal Hennessy
On the Make takes a critical look at image management in thenightlife setting. Using Philadelphia as a case study, the book explores the motivationsand tactics of various groups to deceive, manipulate and hustlepeople for various ends. While the book does offer insight into the intriguesof social interaction, the tone drains almost all pleasure from the actors. Itleaves you wondering why anyone would engage in the experience at all.
The central idea behind On the Make is that nightlife can beseen as a series of con jobs or hustles. These are designed by the con artistto separate the victim from something valuable by offering them somethingworthless (or very close to it) in exchange. Club owners create artificialenvironments and force their employees to engage in false friendship orflirting to separate the patrons from their money. Public relations companies,local media and promoters make up flimsy events and pay celebrities to show upat venues in the hopes of luring the naïve and desperate. Men engage in complexrituals to solicit sexual contact from women and prove their masculinity tomen. Women use more complex (and more successful) tactics to counteractlecherous men, acquire drinks and special treatment and pursue their own sexualconquests. Everyone participates in and has knowledge of a thinly veiled façadedesigned to create and control image. In nightlife, no one and nothing is whatit seems.  
There is a significant portion of every urban populationthat avoids the club scene because they see it as “artificial.” That group willfind a lot of ammunition for their position in this book. Most of the workpaints a negative, predatory picture of nightlife culture. It also largelyignores two important facts. First, image management or hustles are notexclusive to nightlife. They are the common mode of conduct in everyday life.The way most of us act at school, work or at home on a daily basis is as muchof an act of deceit as anything that happens in nightlife. Avoiding nightlifein an attempt to avoid fake people or because you don’t want to put on an actis futile. Those people and that act are part of your everyday life.
The other thing that Mr. Grazian and other nightlifeopponents ignore is the cultural components of nightlife that are fundamentalto the experience. Even if you eliminate or discount the musical, fashion, and gastronomiccontributions of nightlife culture, the social aspect cannot be discounted. Theinteraction between people for camaraderie, sexuality and self-expression canbe exercised in nightlife in ways that are not acceptable in professional orfamily life. More importantly, the pleasure and release that can come fromnightlife culture does not occur in other aspects of life. Nightlife may infact be an illusion, but it is an illusion that makes reality worthwhile forthe people who enjoy it.
Have fun.

Notes from the Night: A Nightlife Culture Review

By Gamal Hennessy

This is simultaneously the best and worst book ever written about New York nightlife. 

It is the best book because Taylor Plimpton captures the rituals of going out with a style that evokes every emotion involved with this intricate process. He describes the reluctance of being dragged out for yet another night and the anticipation of getting ready. He contrasts the ambivalence of the pre-game drinks with the struggle to get into hot clubs. He compares the arrogance that comes from getting into a club to the jaded cynicism of being around so many people who pretend not to care. 

He shows you the comfort of being with friends and the anger of being provoked by strangers, the pleasure and pain of drinking, the urge to dance and the fear of not dancing well, the attraction to beautiful women and the futility of trying to pick them up, the drained feeling that comes at the end of a long the night and the desperate desire for the night to never end, the frustration that comes from never find what he is looking for in nightlife and the contentment that comes from a good night out. Plimpton describes one night but in a certain sense he describes every night in this world in a writing style that is equal parts insightful and naïve. 

It is worst book because reading it can easily lead to the impression that the "exclusive club" experience is all that nightlife in New York is about. He specifically leaves out any reference to the bar and lounge environment, the live music scene, the underground venues and all the other types of nightlife that make New York unique. He never comes to grips with the idea that his nightlife culture is only a slice of a larger whole and that for all the allure of his scene, he is missing out on much of what New York has to offer. 

I highly recommend this book. It is a very good description of New York nightlife for anyone who can't experience it firsthand. It will also bring back a lot of fond memories for anyone who has actually lived this life.

Have fun.